When To Speak and When To Keep Silent?

It's so easy for me to judge. It's so easy for me to look at the speck of dust that is in another's eye, while ignoring the log that is in my own.

What about the issue that I've been able to over come? One that is no longer a stumbling block to me or never has been? An issue that I can see going awry is my fellow Christian sister's life that is not master of me, but I can see the downfall coming to them? What do I say? Do I say anything?

I hear so much of tolerance these days. Tolerance defined in our current culture really isn't tolerant at all. It's only a glorified word for letting me shove my ideas down your throat to obey, but I won't hear a word of your ideas.

For believers of Jesus Christ, isn't it part of our responsibility in the body to aid in healing that which is sick amongst us? How can I help if I'm too afraid to even address an issue because of fear of being shot down, criticized for even bringing up an issue as sin, or being accused of seemed judgmentalness?

How can I ignore Matthew 18, Luke 17, Galatians 6, 2 Thessalonians 3 and James 5:19 which all speak of going to my brother or sister in Christ and talking to them of this sin in their life? Matthew specifically points out that it should first be in private, and Galatians says that I should look to myself to see if I'm being tempted as well. If I'm free and clear of an issue, why then am I so afraid to be obedient to Scripture? 

There have been times that I've been "reprimanded" by fellow believers. It was done in love. It was done in true desire to see me grow closer to the Lord and not distanced. 

I want to help also. To speak with a spirit of love. When I don't say anything to someone that I'm close to, does that mean I don't really care about their spiritual growth?

Am I not then, also sinning?

At the end of James 4, he talks about going to a city and starting a business and being so sure of the future when we don't know what tomorrow will bring; instead we should depend on the will of the Lord for the future. James states: "Therefore, to one who knows the right thing to do and does not do it, to him it is sin."

I don't know the future, I don't know the outcome of a conversation. Am I just as guilt of sinning by keeping my mouth shut when I could help my fellow believer, even if they become angry with me?

I am more concerned about how people will treat me and respond to me, than ME being obedient to JESUS CHRIST. 

In the end it won't matter what people will think of me, and say to me and treat me. It will matter that I was obedient, to Jesus, and only to Jesus.